Some people might think loving yourself is to treat yourself nice with material things, like buying some nice clothes, eating some nice food, getting some nice services like massages, facial, traveling, etc. These things are nice and can make you happy for a while, but these kinds of happiness cannot last forever. Very soon, you will get used to these new clothes, tired of the same food, etc. These things stimulate your five senses, physical senses. These kinds of happiness are from outside. In order to achieve long-term happiness, you need to go within, find the joy from inside you. Joy is from the inside and happiness is from the outside.
Here I am going to talk about another form of loving yourself – emotional fulfillment. If you understand these concepts, you will be able to find joy from within.
- love from other people
We all need love. Love comes from all different kinds of sources, your partner, your family, your friends, your pets, etc. If one of them changed and did not love you anymore, it will cause your emotional pain. You feel unlovable and unworthy. You deny yourself and you might be depressed. If you truly love yourself, that means you know your worth, not the people from outside to define your value and worthiness. If you truly love yourself, you will let go of people who don’t love you and move on with your own life. If you truly love yourself, you will not feel sorrow and hatred when people left you. Because your value and worth do not depend on other people’s reactions and attitudes towards you.
2. compress your own feelings to accommodate others
Sometimes, you feel like you have to hide your true feeling around people. Because you don’t want to cause conflict or disagreement with others. You want to get along with others, hide your own opinions, feelings, and views. If you truly love yourself, you should feel free to be yourself rather than hide your true self. If people don’t like who you are, that’s their problem, not yours. You cannot change people’s thinking and view, but you can be truly who you are. Just be your true self. This is also a type of self-love.
3. Impress others in order to get their recognition
You do things to impress others, even though these things are not what you really like or want. For example, you buy luxury things try to impress others, you post on social media about how wonderful your life so that you can impress others, you want your kids to be successful in order to show off, not consider what your children really want in their own life. You want them to live upon your expectations. To do so, you give yourself a lot of pressure, you want people to look up to you. You care too much what others think about you. If you truly love yourself, you will do things that you really enjoy and like regardless of what other people think and feel about you.
4. Do things you love not things you have to
We see many people have jobs they don’t really like, but they still go to work every day just because of the security and stability that job provides for them. If you don’t enjoy what you do every day, that is suffering and burden. If you really enjoy your work, you will feel very happy when you are at work. The quality of your emotion is high.
The same thing as the relationship, some people stay in the relationship because of the security and stabilities even though there is no love or emotional fulfillment in that relationship, your emotions are suppressed and you don’t feel happy in your life. To keep these kinds of relationships is not self-love.
If you truly love yourself, you care about your emotion, your feelings, and your happiness more than anything else.
I hope everyone can live the life they want and enjoy every day in their life. Love yourself and be true to yourself!
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